The Condition of Male Homosexuality
A. No legitimate scientific study has proved a person is born
B. There are many testimonies of men coming out of
C. Informed disapproval does not mean “homophobia”.
There is no such
creation as a "gay" or "homosexual" person. A person can be a heterosexual with
homosexual tendencies-there is only homosexual attraction and behavior.
Homosexuality violates nature.
A person has all the “tools” and is fully
E. Homosexuality, at its root, is not a sexual
problem―it is a gender-identity problem. Accordingly,
there can be no change from a sexual identity that never existed in the first
With the above foundation, here are some
interesting facts. This information is based upon information gathered from
counseling with male homosexuals.
II. Gender Identity Phase (1-1/2 to 3 Years Old)
At this age a child is narcistic, has grandiose thinking
but is infantile in knowledge.
- Androgynous Phase-the
child wants to be both male and female-this is ok at a very early age.
- As the child gets older
they realize they have the same body parts as dad so they start to have
from mother and identification with father
- Father needs to teach son
that danger can be fun and that at the same time daddy can be trusted. (Daddy
throws son up in the air and then catches him. Son gets scared when thrown up,
but laughs when caught).
Symptoms of those that are not encouraged and allowed to
have masculine strivings when they are young.
- Shamed for trying to be
male so anticipate to be hurt by males (causes them do not connect with males
in a healthy manner) and fear of females manipulating them (not attracted to
- Homosexual men do not
trust men, especially homosexual men.
- Almost every homosexual
man does not value his father.
- Almost always have a fear
or hatred of an older brother.
III. The Classic Triadic Relationship
Mother-Overly emotionally involved, dominant, strong
Father-Quiet, withdrawn, nonexpressive and/or hostile
Son-Temperamentally shy, timid, introverted, artistic,
IV. Latency phase (5 to 12 years old)
A. If triadic relationships are occurring at an early
age the boy will be submissive. At an older age the boy will be rebellious.
B. Can’t identify with physical maleness-extreme modesty
C. Sexual abuse in 1/3 of clients.
Poor peer relationships
“Kitchen-window boy”, not allowed or able to play with other boys.
F. Cross-Gender Behavior
- “Sissy-boy syndrome” or
- High prediction of adult
homosexuality, bisexuality or transgenderism
G. False Self-“The Good Little Boy”-being overly
H. Mother and Father have poor communication.
I. Mother and Son have special relationships
J. Father and Son have guarded, ill-at-ease,
K. The Physical Nature of Homosexual Development
- Alienation from the body
- Excessive modesty
- Exhibitionism (adulthood)
V. Adolescence (12 to Adulthood)
A. Hormones start to kick in. Sexual attraction starts
to develop, which can bring confusion if previous factors are occurring.
B. Every culture has rituals for boys to become men. If
boys are allowed to boys that become men, then there is a gender identity
C. Boys need to connect with men in a healthy manner.
D. What happens if there is
failure of male connecting in a healthy manner and puberty sets in.
Constantly looking for a totally masculine man to model
See a naked mature man and want to be that way-this is ok when
growing into puberty, but becomes a fixation and erotic when wrong conditions
VI. Erotic Transitional Phase-Homosexual Behavior as
Same-sex behavior is an attempt to “repair” childhood
VII. Associated Features of Male Homosexuality
- Male gender deficit
- Problems with assertion (sexualization
- Detachment from men―anticipation
- Constantly looking for a
totally masculine men-one of the reasons it is so popular for homosexual men
to work out, show off their masculine body.
- Search for maleness
- Short-term relationships
VIII. Action Steps
A. Identify “at-risk” children, adolescents and
Be concerned about boys who are:
Showing signs of gender-identity confusion
Feeling like they don’t fit it
Alienated from male peers
Lacking close relationship with fathers
If in younger years boys are not able to connect with their father,
‘practice’ being male, and live in a home with a controlling, possessive mother,
they have the potential to become homosexual.
One of things that men coming out of homosexuality need is
healthy male heterosexual friends that they can trust. They need to learn how to
connect with their masculinity in an appropriate manner.
Here are some Steps to Freedom from Homosexuality
1. Come to
an understanding that homosexuality is a gender identity issues, not a sexual
Acknowledge your need of God’s help to be healed from childhood and other
accountable to someone you respect and trust.
Find legitimate, healthy ways of meeting unmet needs.
Develop healthy friendships with heterosexual men who understand your struggle.
6. Repent from unforgiveness, negative vows and judgments.
Most importantly, allow Jesus Christ to be the Lord of your life and best
How to Become a
If you live in the Capitol
Hill area we have a family that lives in Capitol Hill that would love to be an
encouragement to you. Pastor Richard and Carmi Dover have a cell group that
meets on Thursday nights. Give them a call at 206-860-2945 or
Condition of Female Lesbianism"